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Re: It’s Your Love Life – No One Else’s

Irene — Tue, 16 Jul 2013 14:56:01 -0000

So true it is my life, my relationship, and everything that goes with it. I wouldn't want anybody else. Yes, i vent out problems to friends one to many times. I guess when stress is overwhelming your man won't listen you are at a point where you go to other people. That is what I've done. When i take control. Tell my man what needs to be done he resists. All that pent up anger is taken out venting to some one else. Its gonna take time to stop my behaviors. It would al. so help if he would'nt resist as much either.

Re: Reconciliation After Divorce

Derek Dauphin — Fri, 17 May 2013 06:15:36 -0000

I have been seperated from my wife and son, age 9, for almost a year in june.. we were married for 10 years..I was anger for a long time and did not understand how she could leave me to the dogs. She has a wonderful loving family that I could relate to and talk to.. I however don't have much.. I want so bad to reconcile and get my family back, but I think it will never work.. I have said very wrong and hateful rhings to her and a lot of it was towards or culture differance. Which was wrong because my boy "diego" is half. I wish I could go back in time and change the way I acted.. I'm still in denial that they are even gone.. is there any hope for my situation..

Re: My Boyfriend Cheated On Me

frances — Sat, 04 May 2013 07:13:35 -0000

My name is Frances and I want to share a testimony as a wife, unveiled, uncovered and wide open, to purge my heart of the pain I have encountered and to encourage other women in the world who are, have been, or will soon be wives. Marriage is an interesting and complicated relationship and no one should feel like they are going through it thinking they are the only ones with their problems. I have gone through complications in my marriage that i thought all was lost but i was proved wrong at purityspell@gmail.com were i got the spell to set things back on tracks again in my marriage. After a spell at purityspell@gmail.com, my husband was flabbergasted. He is loving my new attitude and my body now

Re: My Boyfriend Cheated On Me

Catherine — Sat, 20 Apr 2013 02:34:06 -0000

I finally got the one i love to break up with the woman that took her from me. She is my friend but she betrayed me and took him away from me and she stole him from me, every time i saw them together it hurt me so bad inside i wanted to cry, but finally after using your service to cast a spell upon them 2 to break them up, so i get what rightfully deserves to be mine, i cant believe this actually worked thank you so much for giving me a chance thank you Ancientspiritualtemple@gmail. com

Re: How to Trust Your Wife after Infidelity

Lucky Guy'' — Mon, 01 Apr 2013 09:16:34 -0000

Thank you for this web site and your level headed responses that have given me
the ability to realize my situation

Re: How to Trust Your Wife after Infidelity

Marcehardy927 — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 11:22:46 -0000

Thank you for commenting Selvan. I understand your pain. It's excruciating, and some days, you won't know how to deal with it all. You may even feel psychotic. It's all normal though. You've been hurt, and now, the suffering is on you. It's not fair, but such is life. You can overcome infidelity, but your wife has to show you that she is 100% committed to you and just you. Will she ever do it again? No one knows that, and you'll never be able to believe she is incapable of doing it again. However, you can learn to love her again despite what she has done by making a promise to yourself that you won't stand for it again. In this time, you have to trust yourself to take care of you rather than let someone else care for you now. Stand strong through the storms you'll go through because the stronger you stand, the better you'll be in the end. Please let me know if I can help you in any other way. Good luck to you.

Re: How to Trust Your Wife after Infidelity

Selvan — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 09:58:26 -0000

My wife cheated on me. This has been going on for about 7 months. The pain is driving me insane. I feel suicidal. I have 2 kids. I want to work things out. I want to believe that she's really sorry and won't repeat the act. How do I cope with the pain. Where to from here?

Re: Reconciliation After Divorce

dirt — Wed, 16 Jan 2013 18:22:51 -0000

My father in law needs a giant slap on his neck! I am going through a divorce with no adultery, abuse....but three beautiful little girls hangjng in the balance. They love their daddy so much, but daddy only gets them 13 percent of the year. I have never seen the side that my wife pojects today. She turned into a vindictive mass. Oh well...there will other accepting and wonderful women to get involved with in the future. As for her father...he is an absolute ass...a jerk. A wealthy bureaucrat...felt like an employee to their family instead of a son in law. Oh well...move on and wait until I meet that someone that knows how to treat someone with some respect!

Re: My Boyfriend Cheated On Me

jake — Thu, 13 Dec 2012 08:05:35 -0000

I contacted Ancient benin shrine because someone that I loved the most suddenly left me. I have always been the one that has been hurt. I knew that when I first met him, he was the one I have always been looking for. For some reason he's been holding on to the pain from a past relationship. Dr.Ancient so far has been in contact with me every day and has decided that he will take my case. He told me that me and the guy was very well matched and he will help clear his mind from all the negativity. He did all that and now we are now both happy together again. Thank you Ancient benin shrine .Thank you for choosing my case. Thank you for giving me hope again. Email ancientbeninshrine@gmail.com jake

Re: Stop Comparing Your Relationship

Dylan — Sun, 02 Dec 2012 16:45:41 -0000

Dr Stanley helped my marriage. The problem was not between my husband and I, but from jealousy brought on by his family. Ever since we met, they have tried to sabotage our relationship. It felt to me as if I wasn't just married to him, but also his family, which was slowly dividing us. We were on the verge of divorcing, I consulted drstanleyspelltemple@gmail.com to find out if he could help save our marriage. I'm happy to say that he did and I can't thank him enough. So if you have a marriage problem contact drstanleyspelltemple@gmail.com.........Dylan

Re: How to Trust Your Wife after Infidelity

Stopinforabeer — Wed, 28 Nov 2012 09:15:17 -0000

My wife cheated on me three years ago, we are still together.. we get along very well, we always have. She has more less been kissing my butt for the last three years. We have Two children 14 and 9 now, that is the only reason that i have stayed with her, she is not a bad person and i dont believe that she will cheat again in that she has realized what she has to loose. but i still cant get past the cheating. i feel like i am waiting for when my kids are older and move out, i will as well...... Any advice?

Re: My Boyfriend Cheated On Me

Edith — Tue, 20 Nov 2012 08:45:46 -0000

Like anybody would be, I was very skeptical about using a love spell or any spell for that matter but I was absolutely shocked when Ken called me after I had you cast my "return my lover" spell for me. It was after 3days i had my spell casted that was when he came back to me. (practically on his knees). He broke up with me over a month ago and now we are happier than ever. Thank you Dr. Lee Email: Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com

Re: How to Trust Your Wife after Infidelity

Westcoastsun — Thu, 01 Nov 2012 01:36:36 -0000

Run. Leave. Suck it up. You will never ever be able to trust her again! Or look her in the eye and not think about what she's done to you. No matter how much therapy or understanding you gain from this you have to understand that she blew it with you! It was her choice, fully and completely. She did not have you or the children's best interest in mind. She may say that she regrets it now, but the grass is always greener, until they realize they've made a mistake and want to come back. That's not a true relationship. Once an affair occurs, things are changed forever! It cannot and will not ever be the same between you two, regardless of the amount of therapy conducted! Stand up, stand alone! And be a measure of a man. She left you for another man, who didn't want her in the end. Move on, I assure you you will be happier in the long run!!

Re: Pay Attention to Subtle Cheating Men Signs

Marcelina927 — Sun, 16 Sep 2012 00:13:49 -0000

Hi Cas,

What a very difficult situation are in. I am so sorry. What is it that you want to do? Really deep down inside, what do you want to see happen from this situation? We know you want him to stop, and be the father and boyfriend you wish for your baby and yourself, but if he is not going to do that, what will you do about it? Being in the fog of all the pain you are feeling is making it difficult for you to grasp what it is that you need to do with the situation - not to mention having such a little baby to care for on top of it all. Try to take some time to care for yourself through all of this, and then try to come to grips with exactly what is going on with your relationship, and what you feel is best for you and your son.

Marcelina

Re: Pay Attention to Subtle Cheating Men Signs

cas — Tue, 04 Sep 2012 11:30:23 -0000

My boyfriend of 2 years almost always turns the computer screen when im around so i cant see and whenever i come near him he automatically minimizes the screen and gets annoyed at me for coming by him. he thinks im trying to spy on him, but how can i trust him when he does that? and ive found emails to craigslist ads for women, no replys back though, and ive found texts on his found multiple times to girls. he says he's stopping sexting girls but how do i rly know? he even slept with someone in our garage once while i was asleep inside and slept with my own sister when drinking at home, i was sleeping in our room, they were in living room. oh and to make decisions harder, we now have a 2 month old little boy...help??

Re: How to Trust Your Wife after Infidelity

Bigtime419 — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 02:31:41 -0000

my wife cheated about 7 years ago but only came clean about it 3 years ago. i have a hard time trusting that she is doing the right thing for our marriage when shes constantly on the internet "playing games" even though i cought her cybering after she came clean. im all mixed up. part of me wants to get the hell out. but most of me wants to stay because i love her with everything i am. we have 3 kids and i was just wondering wtf am i supposed to do?????

Re: Codependency in Relationships

New Christian Books — Tue, 03 Jul 2012 16:16:47 -0000

Another word that describes this type of relationship is enmeshment--when we're tangled up with someone in an unhealthy way. A very helpful article on this topic begins like this: When someone says things
like "You complete me!" or "I'd die without you!" it may
seem romantic--but it should be a big relational red flag!
Here's a link to the article: http://www.wikihow.com/Reco...

Re: Does He Really Love You After He Cheats?

Mamagirlz — Mon, 02 Jul 2012 20:38:43 -0000

What if he WAS thinking of you and said " I wished it was you" and was using things that upset him about me (us) as justification to keep it going? He ended it immediately but was worried that she hated him and said that he never saw anything serious between them. I asked him that very night after he eneded it if he wanted to? He said no. He liked the attention. Says it was the attention.

Re: Codependency in Relationships

Darlene Lancer — Fri, 15 Jun 2012 15:49:11 -0000

Codependency is subtle. Although this article describes a typical caretaker, not all codependents fall into that category. Codependency affects self-esteem, intimacy, and communication. Many times it's the man who is a "caretaker," not by becoming invested in his partner's problems, but by sacrificing his needs for his family. Also, codependency is a problem for people out of relationships, too. It may affect their job. Darlene Lancer, MFT, author of Codependency for Dummies.

Re: My Boyfriend Cheated On Me

Jrewald — Thu, 26 Apr 2012 13:11:46 -0000

Wow. a great read. Relationships are crazy.... Reminds me of my friends blog a little. He went through stuff like this, except he was the guy they cheated with. Of course, now they both hate him, like its all his fault. I think he writes about it here. http://www.seanoakley.com/2... But its crazy. Getting over being cheated on is super hard, but imagine being the guy who fell for the girl who was cheating. he got left in the dust.

Re: My Boyfriend Cheated On Me

Guest — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 15:42:51 -0000

Thank you for your input. Everything makes sense after reading your articles/blog and your answer here. I just really wish that he was man enough to own up to his mistakes so that I could have peace of mind and forgive him at some point. What that means for us as a "couple" after that who knows but at least i'd have that...instead he has said to me,

"i feel as though you want/need me to apologize for something i have done or some crime i have committed. Although I apologize that my actions, unbeknowst to me, have caused you pain, that was not my intention. And although i'm apologizing it is not because I feel/know i have done something "wrong" per se but rather because it has inadvertently caused you pain."

As a couple, we cannot move toward a relationship this way. Like you said, he's caught red handed and is still denying it...trust cannot be recovered at this point. I have slowly begun the process of eliminating him from my life. It's very hard but at some point i pray it will get easier. I am no longer a teenager or college student with ample time to give someone, i'm looking for the life of my life, all else need not apply.

Thank you again, you have made this a little easier for me. A third party perspective really helped.

Take care.

Re: Letting Go of an Abusive Relationship

Ethan — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 08:08:44 -0000

This is one of the hardest things to do on earth. Find a friend you love and trust and who will support you through this traumatic and turbulent time in your life. Resolve that "no matter what" you will finally end this cycle of abuse in your life - once and for all.

Re: How to Get Out of a Relationship Rut

Ethan — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 08:04:22 -0000

Great advice. Kids, homework, soccer games, dance lessons, vet visits, meal prep, baths and such can leave you exhausted at the end of the day. It's important to bank a little energy during the day to spend in the evening on your relationship. If you don't take the time to do it now, will you ever take the time?

Re: Love Work Exercise #1: Improve Relationship

Ethan — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 07:59:53 -0000

Love the step by step approach your article takes. It's wonderful to have a blueprint for how to improve a relationship. Sometimes you just need to step outside yourself to fix a problem.

Re: Does He Really Love You After He Cheats?

Ethan — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 07:54:49 -0000

Great article. Keep in mind the reason that many people 'cheat' in the first place is often because the communication has broken down in the relationship.